The Year of the Roller Coaster

The Chinese name their lunar years after the animals in their zodiac. These revolve in a twelve year cycle. In a few weeks, we will be in year of the snake. All sorts of propitious things are promised. But then, the year of the dragon, which we are leaving, predicted all sorts of good fortune too.

Not wanting to be left out, I’ve decided to name my years – not according to any zodiacal sign but simply on their merits. In my system, names are applied retrospectively so that a more accurate nomenclature will apply. Last year was definitely the year of the roller coaster.

Roller coaster in grey Image: Priscilla du Preez on Unsplash

A worrisome year

2024 seemed to offer nothing but bad news (and I’m not even beginning to comment on world affairs). My brother-in-law died, my best friend from graduate school had a catastrophic stroke and too many friends were given awful diagnoses.

As a consequence, rather than looking forward to 2025 with hope, I looked to it with trepidation, knowing that at least some of those mentioned would not make it until 2026. I wasn’t sure that I had the stamina to cope.

Then I did something that shifted everything into perspective. I went through my new diary putting in birthdays, medical appointments and anniversaries as usual, but this time, I wrote on a separate sheet any good thing that had happened in a month. It didn’t have to be big or Instagram-worthy – it just had to be good.

A pleasant surprise

What I discovered was that every month had at least one happy event (and often more), which a cloud of worry had made me forget. Furthermore, on closer inspection, I realised that these events were giving me hints on how to cope when life most certainly wasn’t going to plan.

Let’s face the music and dance

Having last seen a professional live band sometime in the 1980’s, it was rather brilliant to see two this past year. I have Mariia to thank for this.

In concert in Brighton Image: Mariia Matrunich

In January, we got to see the wonderful Dakha Brakha. Their skill as musicians and the moving imagery projected behind was a reminder that even when the worst occurs (invasion by a wicked superpower pretty much tops the list) that joy and beauty can still be found.

And in April, we got to see Ukraine’s top band, Ocean Elsa. It was a poignant experience with most of the audience composed of displaced Ukrainians. The performance gave them a taste of home.

This band, like Dakha Brakha, have used their international tours to remind others of the difficulties those in Ukraine continue to endure and to raise funds for the war effort.

When Ocean Elsa’s performance was interrupted recently in Kyiv by the air raid sirens, they continued the concert in the underground station. In doing so, they thrilled their fans and reminded them that the spirit cannot be silenced.

(The video above was taken by Mariia’s friend and content creator for the band, Oleksandra Hyzha)

Art to console and inspire

In almost every month, I took advantage of trips to galleries and exhibitions. Both our holidays centred around places of especially wonderful architecture and art. Vienna (June) was designed as a huge visual spectacle and Venice (September) was a veritable 3D picture postcard.

Vienna’s centre was built to impress and residents are rightly proud to live in such a city. For the purpose of this blog, it was an area on the periphery that interested me. Here, the architect Hundertwasser had designed social housing that would uplift the hearts of those struggling financially and bring joy to even the hardest day. His use of vibrant colour and inclusion of nature tried to show that even the most modest housing stock need not be depressingly grey.

The Art House that exemplifies Hundertwasser’s unique style. Image: Karen Costello-McFeat

Venice, magnificent though it is, lacks soul. The grand piazzas and glorious facades are designed to impress. It is architectural conspicuous consumption. Though we may gaze in awe, we are not included in its glories.

The churches in Padua, in contrast, were a kind of exaltation. Their exquisite frescoes, paintings, tile and marquetry were commissioned in the service of God. Everyone was welcome to both wonder at their beauty and to bring their concerns. Padua is an important pilgrimage site and if you have any faith or none, the churches offered consolation in a difficult world.

In the company of friends

Few days, let alone weeks went by without visits to friends – some regular meetings like craft club and others more occasional, like my university friends’ annual reunion. All of them reminded me that nothing material can come close to the joy that shared companionship brings and any effort needed to host or entertain is rewarded with double in laughter and boosted morale.

My 60th in May provided a great opportunity to bring friends and family together and set the decade off on a positive note.

May sunshine, friends and Prosecco – what more could one want? Image: Karen Costello-McFeat

And so my diary went on: a coffee morning here, a visit from my son there. Over and over I had been blessed with joy in one form or another. And reading through it, I realised that I had fallen for the pity-party narrative when I should have been rejoicing at my good fortune. Yes, the year has brought a plethora of problems and yet, should I focus on these, I would lose that most valuable attribute: hope.

So, if you are feeling a little ground down by life, you might like to review the good times and remember that though the roller coaster lurches downwards for what can seem an eternity, it will climb again soon.

Be Brave Like Ukraine

Sometimes my ideas for posts come from the strangest places. This one arrived in the mail.

My husband had found a perfect Christmas gift for Mariia, but it had to come from Ukraine. Upon its arrival, she brought it to me puzzled, saying it was addressed to Jeff but had Ukrainian stamps. ‘That’s right,’ I said whisking it away. ‘I’m delighted it’s got here.’ Which is when I noticed the sticker on the back of the envelope.

An uplifting postal message
Image: Karen Costello-McFeat

I doubt I would have thought any more about it except that a few things happened in close order. One was the comment by a chap in the park that the war would be over if the Ukrainians just accepted Russian rule. The second was Macron and Biden’s desire to negotiate with Putin. The third was the underlying rumblings that Ukrainian ‘recalcitrance’ in refusing to back down was causing energy and food supply issues for the West.

The answer I wanted to give all of them was: Be brave like Ukraine!

Since I know that many people share the views above, I’d like to give a little more insight than perhaps is available on the news.

But Ukraine is part of Russia anyway

Unfortunately, this is clearly what the Russians think and I’m sure many others too. Ukraine’s history is a complex one with the region being annexed many times over the centuries. It was home to the Kyivan Rus (Vikings who settled in the area) and was subsequently part of the Polish, Lithuanian, Mongol, Russian and Austro-Hungarian empires.

In 1922, after a brief period of independence, Ukraine became part of the USSR until achieving full independence once more in 1991. This time, the country chose its independence via a democratic referendum. It’s fate was not to be decided by the whims of history, but by the people themselves. And when asked if they wished to become an independent country the answer was an overwhelming yes – with 92.3% in support.

Thirty years on, they clearly wish to remain that way. Russia has deep cultural ties with the area, but I, for one do not believe that trumps a nation’s sovereignty or democratically decided statehood.

For a more in-depth but very easy comprehensible version, please watch the video below.

Time to negotiate?

With the war going on for almost ten months now, there are those who wish to go into negotiations to bring it to an end. Macron seems especially keen and Biden too, given certain provisos. As someone who always prefers peace over war and who is now far too aware of the difficulties and deprivations of those living in Ukraine, I would normally applaud such as progress. Yet the phrase that keeps resounding in my brain is ‘Do not negotiate with terrorists.’

While Russia claims that it feels intimidated by the potential increase in size of of NATO (especially Ukraine gaining membership), its ‘military infrastructure in Europe’ and missiles near its borders (Reuters Dec 5), there is nothing to suggest that Russia has anything to fear from its near neighbours. The contrary, however, cannot be said to be true. Russia has constantly threatened and undermined the individual nationhood of Ukraine with its worst efforts under Stalin who led a state sponsored famine – the Holodomor – resulting in almost four millions deaths. Russia’s invasion is just one incident in a line of many.

We all want peace, but not at any price Image: Engin Akyurt

When asked to comment on Putin’s security demands, one of Zelenskiy’s aids replied, ‘The world need security guarantees from Russia.’ (Reuters, 5 Dec). Indeed.

A little inconvenience

There is no doubt that the ongoing war in Ukraine is causing major disruption of energy and food supplies. Ukraine is the number one producer of sunflower oil and a major producer of cereals like maize, barley and wheat. It also is a significant producer of steel, which impacts engineering projects. Further, the conflict has resulted in a steep rise in energy prices, since Russia supplies so much to Europe.

Rapeseed and blue skies Image: Alexei Scutari on Unsplash

The war will cost all of us – though the poor countries reliant on their grain the most. But for those of us in the UK, we are unlikely to suffer too terribly. I appreciate that for many, the increase in fuel bills will be an unwelcome and perhaps final insult to already stretched finances. I do not underestimate that this winter will be hard for many people.

That said, I cannot conceive of how dire a winter in Ukraine will be. With temperatures regularly plummeting to sub zero, how do you manage without any reliable sources of energy at all? Mariia works regular hours on-line, but her colleagues in Ukraine have to work whenever the electricity supply is turned on and they are not sheltering in basements. She is sending thermal underwear to her parents. They have a generator, but it relies on fuel – and that is in short supply.

So what should we do?

Clearly, we can do little to change the situation in Ukraine, but we can follow their example. If we recognise the bravery and resilience of the Ukrainian people in the face of overt aggression, perhaps we can bring a little more courage in the face of adversity in our own lives. Perhaps, we will not be able to fulfil all our desires this Christmas, perhaps we will even have to make some sacrifices, but I hope that we can do this with good grace.

Moreover, I hope that we can continue to support the Ukrainian people in their struggle against a wicked regime. We must not let our own inconvenience lead us to falter and perhaps support measures that ease our lives at the expense of the Ukrainians. Being brave has consequences that are not all positive, yet the consequences for appeasement and accommodation in the long term are far, far worse.